It's Time for your RESET! The Summer is Here!
5 Tips to R.E.S.E.T.
Remember to capture YOUR wins
Embrace YOUR impacts
Surround your space with positive energy
Experience the joy of YOU
Trust that YOU ARE.......uniquely YOU
The sun is out, the grills are lit, the beach is waiting on your arrival, and RESET season is here! It's time to pause, to reflect, to celebrate, and to enjoy YOU! Here's 5 tips to help you get your summertime RESET on!!! Have fun!!
R is for Remember to capture YOUR wins
How amazing would it be to read your collective wins at the end of a long week? How inspiring would it be to remember your achievements on those days you feel you have nothing more to give? It’s all in your control! If I may offer you one consideration, I would love for you to try something new in the upcoming week, which is something that has worked for me and a number of my clients, friends, and family. Consider posting a flip chart pad or sheet of paper near the dinner table. Each day before dinner, jot down your small win. If there are other folks in your household, also consider dividing your paper in columns, with the name of each family member at the top, where everyone writes one small win from that day. There are no rules, there is no judgement, but instead, simply the capture of what each person considers their win. My 6-year-old son occasionally writes, “you picked me up early from after school” or “my teacher said I did great today.” Not only may this be a new dinner-time ritual and conversation piece, but it also showcases a moment in your day where you achieved something great…AND allows you to articulate it to people you know, trust, and love! Congratulations.
E is for Embrace YOUR impacts
Far too often, we miss taking our moments to say “Wow, I did do that.” Even at a rarer instance do we take time to celebrate our impacts. Did you know that you had an impact on someone yesterday and today? Hmmm, you had to think about it right? Well, it’s true. Even when you don’t want to be or think you are, there is someone looking at you for encouragement and it’s OK to take moments to pause, reflect, and embrace the impact you are having on others. Occasionally, it is even hard to fathom that someone saw you and your actions as role modelling a piece of where they want to be, an inspiration, a push, or a lesson. When you sit and reflect, you are able to embrace the fact that there is in fact, cause for celebration.”
Here’s a little story. As I coached a client this week through a brainstorm of what would excite her in her moments of pause, she mentioned a “me party.” Now a recurring schedule on Fridays at 5:00pm, with an hour reminder to wrap up at work, her new 5:00pm appointment with herself became the weekly celebration she needed for her. I pass this along to you because a “me party,” quite simply put, is pausing to enjoy your moments. It will differ for everyone, but for this amazing woman, her celebration includes take-out from a local restaurant, a glass of wine, a recliner, and her favorite Netflix movie. I encourage you to define your “me party” AND get it scheduled today!
S is for Surround YOUR space with positive energy
Social media may remind you that you have 1K followers or 200 more connections in a single day, however your personal space is a sacred place. This is reserved for the energy you want to give and that you wish to receive. Surrounding yourself with people and things that push you beyond where you are today, will allow you to thrive in a newfound greatness you have yet to realize.
E is for Experience the joy of YOU
Guilt, fear, and the notion that we are too busy to slow down, are only three blocks that get in our way when we think of taking care of you first. When you invest in taking care of yourself, you fuel your mind, your body, and your soul. Who said being selfish on occasion is a bad thing? My vote is that it is A-OK! I posted an “instructional acronym” on SELFISH this week and would love to share it with you in the event that you missed my post on IG, FB, or LI.
T is for Trust that YOU are uniquely YOU
Need a reminder? Consider not only reminding yourself, but also reminding the world by grabbing a tee or tank that make the same power statements.
In summary, your RESET is all about YOU! An easy and poetic way to keep it all together is...
You are cordially
Remember to capture your small wins
Embrace the impacts you have made, then allow your celebrations to begin
Surround your space with positive energy, folks who lift you when you are at your worst
Experience the joy that comes along with taking care of you first
Trust that you are enough, you are worthy, and you are blessed! BEYOND MEASURE!
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Lolita E. Walker is a change champion for women and a certified coach. Her passion of witnessing transformation right before her eyes has sparked her movement of empowering women to embrace their challenges and triumphs, act in their strengths, and thrive in their greatness. Personalized affirmations, coaching, women's retreats, products that make a statement, and more, Lolita meets you where you are and journeys you to where you want to be.
It's Time for You To L.E.A.P.
Ready to L.E.A.P.? Please allow me to show you four ways to start your journey.
“The jump is so frightening between where I am and where I want to be...because of all I will become I will close my eyes and leap.””
Ever had that butterfly feeling in your tummy and knew you should just do it, or been fed up and simply knew you need a change? Well...
NOW IS YOUR TIME, YOUR TIME TO LEAP and here are 4 things to commit to memory that remind you YES, YOU CAN!
L is for Latch
Latch on to your faith and strengths, which will help you soar to greater heights.
Ask 3 people you know to give you 3 of your strengths. Shoot them an message, call them up, or ask them in person, the results will be the same. You are looking for positive characteristics that make you.,YOU! Ask them to give you an example of each one so you have context. Try not to challenge what they share with you, over-analyze, or ask penetrating questions, because you have now opened your mind to receive their feedback as a gift. Simply say thank you and most importantly of all, believe them. Relish in the fact that you have many strengths, some that you know and some you have yet to realize.
The reality is that we oftentimes fail to pause and simply take in our small wins. Your strengths are wins. They are what empower, inspire, motivate, challenge, and demand the positive attention you deserve. Take your moments to pause because, guess what.... YOU ARE GREAT! simply say thank you, let the feedback sit, and then think about how this strength can help you reach your goal! This, alongside your faith, will propel you to SOAR!
E is for Expect
Expect ups and downs on the journey to bring life to your vision.
If it were easy......well,,,, all of us would have leaped by now! There will definitely be times you will question yourself and even contemplate whether or not you should quit. There will be times you get extra energy because you are on a roll. It is these energetic wins that will lift you when you begin to challenge your decision to leap. Here's something that you can try. At the end of each day, document a small win. Stick a sheet of paper, titled "Small Wins" on your wall so it is visible daily. You can even section off columns for everyone in your household. It is a fabulous family fun time, that after a few times, will become a fun habit that everyone looks forward to. Stay consistent and lean on these accomplishments when your days, weeks, and months throw small doubts your way! #YOUGOTTHIS
A is for Assess
Assess your progress and adjust to meet your goals.
Just because you have a plan doesn't mean you cannot adjust the plan as needed. Your goal is clear, you have developed how you will get there, have tested it out over a period of time, and have a few results to warrant the change. Do it! It is your plan. You created it to achieve your your goal. Adjust as needed and be sure to measure your success.
P is for Prepare
Prepare to live and thrive in your greatness. ITS RIGHT THERE!
When you have reached your goal, the magic that sits there awaiting you is confidence, commitment, power, determination, accomplishment, perseverance and reward! You did that. Yes, you are worthy! Recognize and Reward Yourself!
Lolita E Walker is the author of “The Intersection of You & Change,” Certified Life & Executive Coach and Change Champion for Women. She is at the forefront of a movement to empower women to embrace, act, and thrive in the challenges and triumphs that are before them, act in their strengths, and thrive in the greatness that they are. Click Here to Read More
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Are YOU your top priority?
Hmmmm, how do you make you your top priority?
How many times have you said ABSOLUTELY as the response to this question because you know it is the right answer? How many times have endless thoughts danced in your head to then give you pause in taking those moments you need?
Likely this has happened to you once or twice. How do I know? Because I have had this happen to me as well. I have been there when little voices rouse up feelings of guilt, as if there is no time, or thoughts that you don't need to take your moments right now because you are doing just fine on your own. Far too often, as women, we don't take the necessary moments to PAUSE and renew ourselves.
Self-focus, self-doubt, self-sabotage, & self-limiting beliefs can knock us down and hold us hostage each day. The drive is knowing that we are better than the little voices in our heads. We are powerful, we are smart, we are warriors, we are determined. Even Wonder Woman pauses to simply be :) In the normal hustle and bustle, busy women like us can begin to renew ourselves by creating time in our schedules, shifting our mindsets, and knowing that taking care of us means that we are better able to take care of others. Here are a few tidbits on how to consistently renew you - one step at a time.
7 Steps to Renewing You.
1. Take Moments to BREATHE
To really breathe. Solitary deep breaths in of knowing you are enough, of positive energy, of your worthiness, of your commitment to greatness in your day. Deep breaths out of toxic energy, negativity, self-limiting beliefs, and of doubt.
2. Lean on FAITH & MEDITATION
To have a greater purpose beyond yourself and a faith that holds you up is a rock that is unshakable. Lean on it for strength and guidance as you move throughout your journey.
3. AFFIRM Yourself Daily
Address yourself in the mirror daily to profess what you will do and be within your day. Continue until this routine is missed if you momentarily forget.
4. Visualize Your GOAL
Get your goals on paper so that you can see it daily.
5. Identify Your SUPPORT SYSTEM
Occupy your space with people who will hold you up during your journey.
6. Communicate your LEAP PLAN
To leap is to know that there is a world of unknown awaiting for you.
7. COMMIT
Just do it! You got this!
RENEW yourself for the greatness that lies ahead.
Remember you are stronger and smarter than you may give yourself credit for.
Expose yourself to new experiences & be amazed at how your strengths propel you to soar.
Nourish your mind with positive energy & affirmations each day.
Execute your work with excellence, pride, & with everything you are proud to attach to your name.
Wish the same upon those who support you, then with your leadership, they will do the same.
Consider renewing YOU at an upcoming Women's Weekend Renewal & Training Retreat to reset right before the holidays. You will enjoy 11 other phenomenal women, at a serene location, private chef, workshops, mindfulness, and much more.
Lolita E. Walker is a change champion, speaker, and workshop facilitator at the forefront of a movement to help women shift their mindsets and take back moments for themselves. These moments translate to more productive, creative, and decisive individuals, who embrace change at the onset, act with clarity and confidence, and thrive, as they surpass their desired results. She moves powerful women into their own personal greatness to thrive in work, home, and life. Within the disruption, discomfort, fear, and doubts of change, are triumphs, successes, and wins. Lolita's brings those out of all of her clients. Her services range from creating personalized daily affirmations, to retreats, speaking, and coaching, to name a few.
